Why you shouldn’t publicly shame the other woman
So you recently found out that your man has been cheating on you. Your plan: not only to confront him, but to confront the other woman as well. This is not a good idea, according to Denecia Green, author of Lies, Sex & Betrayal.
Why?
1. It may backfire
Men tend to speak badly of the other women when they are confronted, so chances are some of the stories you have been told are not true. So imagine when you confront the other woman and she reveals dirty laundry that is totally different from what he told you, or if she reveals things that you were completely unaware of and totally unprepared to deal with, resulting in you looking silly. Secondly, you just may get yourself beaten. Never underestimate your opponent. So if you know you are unable to get in a few hits successfully if it boils down to that, don’t approach the other woman publicly.
2. You are indirectly shaming yourself
Who wants to air their dirty laundry in public? The truth is that by confronting the other woman publicly, you are making your personal issues known to everyone which may negatively affect you in the future. Needless to say, such an act may tarnish your reputation as people will look upon you differently.
3. It’s not the woman who betrayed you; it’s him!
The man is the person you are committed to, not the other woman, therefore direct your anger at him. Besides, embarrassing the other woman publicly may not turn in your favour. This may make him furious with you, and the last thing you want is for him to feel sorry for her. And if you managed to win him over, you may still have the angry other woman to contend with. She may do everything possible to reconnect with him just to annoy you.
4. Straight up, it doesn’t look good
Any woman who truly respects and values herself would never think of embarrassing another woman publicly. That could have been you in that situation and you certainly would not want that to be done to you. Even though you hate her for having an affair with your man, attacking her publicly may even result in your spouse feeling slightly embarrassed by your actions and he may no longer view you in high regard.
