Guys, here’s how to be a new-age man in bed
IT’S true that we are living in a different world from our parents, and getting with the times is crucial for success in relationships. No longer is there space in the modern relationship for any hang-ups about bedroom activities, as movies and the media have opened women’s eyes to all the wonders that are available as they search for satisfaction. So women are now insisting that men flip the scripts they’ve become so used to.
Sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill says a modern man is a paradox of masculine and feminine qualities — physically strong, virile, sociable, self-confident and a budding transformational leader, while at the same time sensuous, sensitive, empathetic, communicative and willing to surrender in his sexual exploits if his partner decides to take the lead.
How can you become a modern man in the bedroom?
Be patient
This man takes the time to understand his woman’s erogenous zones depending on her moods. This way he can know how to please her, how he needs to respond to her, and the type of sex that she is in the mood for.
Talk during sex
A modern man talks during sex, and grunts or shouts when he peaks. In other words, he is not afraid of exposing how he truly feels during vulnerable moments. Women love this.
Be a student of self-control
This man is very confident and he is willing to take his time to properly arouse his woman. He knows that foreplay takes time, but it is a very integral part of sex. It can make sex a more fulfilling adventure.
Trash the routines
A modern man thinks about sex often and refuses to let sex be a routine, so he begins foreplay as he leaves for work by patting his woman on the butt, passionately kissing her before he leaves for work, and sending her suggestive texts or love notes during the day. It’s a prelude for passionate sex when he gets home from work.
Always be ready to satisfy
Think of your woman like a stove — always keep the pilot burning. In other words, always be prepared to sexually satisfy her, especially if she is the one who initiates sex.
Moments after sex matter too
A modern man capitalises on the moments after sex by talking about intimate matters and listening to his partner instead of rolling over to sleep. Women love these men, because they get to cuddle and also get a heart- to-heart with their men when they’re at their most vulnerable.
— Penda Honeyghan
