The reason your relationships don’t work
They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince, but after kissing all the frogs in the pond, are you still wondering what happened to your happily ever after?How do you fix things?
“Relationships take a lot of work, and sustaining one is more complex than many people think initially,” says counsellor David Anderson. “That’s why so many relationships fail, because they’re grounded on the wrong principles.”
Here are some reasons why your past relationships might not have worked.
1. You don’t know what you are looking for. You need to make a list of what you want in a partner and what you are willing to live without.
2. You are settling. There is no need to settle for a partner who you know is only going to make you unhappy. The signs of the end may be staring you in the face before the relationship even starts.
3. You’re too picky. No one is perfect, not even you. Being too picky over things such as not liking someone’s pants can leave you alone in the wilderness.
4. You don’t know how to communicate effectively. Know when to talk and when not to. Know how to make your point without being a nag.
5.You chat too much. Plastering everything about your relationship on social media isn’t the type of attention your relationship needs.
6. You spill too much to friends and family. There is nothing wrong with telling those close to you about your relationship, or any issues you might be having, but having them get involved can be too much for your partner to handle.
1. Communicate effectively. Understand that your partner might have his way of expressing himself. Once this is established, find ways to communicate so that both your voices can be heard.
2. Acknowledge that changes have to be made. Your personal motto of “I’m not going to change for anybody” clearly needs to be revamped. Your partner isn’t going to be your mother and pander to your poor attitude and mild temper tantrums.
3. Understand compatibility. Look for compatibility not only in your interests but also in your values.
4. Learn to let go. You have to learn to let go of your past relationships and how to leave them there. If you hold on to your past you won’t be able to face the future.
