Signs you’ll mother-in-law have problems
MANY of us are familiar with the storyline of the 2005 romantic comedy Monster-in-Law, where Jennifer Lopez falls in love with Michael Vartan, only to have their union sidelined by his monster of a mother.
Some women are hell-bent on making their mothers-in-law love them, others launch an all-out war, and still others merely tolerate the intrusion. Ever wondered whether your guy’s mother will turn into a nutcase after you marry him? Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell shared six signs that she will.
1. She wants to instruct you how to cook
Some mothers-in-law believe that nobody in the world can cook to their sons’ liking quite like them. As such they will move into your living space to tell you what or how to cook, often even trying to show up your shortcomings in the kitchen.
2. She’s overly critical of you in public and in private
Regardless of where you are, at home or at the mall, or who you are around, she tries to belittle and to embarrass you by pointing out your flaws. Some mothers-in-law go as far as creating fictional faults just so that they can always have something to talk down to you about.
3. She makes unreasonable demands on your spouse’s time and attention
She knows that you have a dinner date planned, in fact she was there when you planned it, but just as you are ready to go out she needs to go to the park to clear her mind or she needs to go to church because she does not want to be left alone.
4. She compares you unfavourably with a former girlfriend
Whether or not she liked his previous girlfriend, she will talk about her son’s ex as though she was superior to you on all levels. Nothing makes a woman more insecure than the thought that the ex had more to offer than she does.
5. She meddles in the wedding plans
You like roses but she like tulips and tries convincing you that her son and the guests would prefer them too. In fact she tries to go against everything that you and your mom or wedding planners decided on.
6. She does not recognise your presence at a family event
You are there, but you might as well have been invisible, because that is how she treats you. She doesn’t introduce you to family members and she ignores you for most of the event.
