Are you bored with your relationship?
In the beginning everything was great, you both jumped off the diving board of life and immersed yourselves in the ocean of love. You couldn’t get enough of this beautiful water of happily ever after.
But then came the time for you get out of the water and sit on the shore, and as time passed you have become somewhat weary in this situation. If after getting married or moving in together and having children you’re wondering where’s the fun, you may be suffering from relationship stagnation.
Here are some key indicators that this is where you’re at:
Routine
Your relationship is a boring routine. It’s completely predictable, and you know exactly what you’re going to do with each other every day of the week. When love starts to get monotonous, some of us can’t help but feel like we’re stuck in a locked room.
You have stopped making an effortYou no longer do the things you used to do to either spice up the relationship or aid in making it work.
You’re still lookingYou have your eyes set on looking for a better dating potential. Your partner no longer has you on cloud nine and you’re starting to feel like better might be out there — someone new and different.
No sexual excitementSex has become more of a chore and you find it more fun to think of excuses to avoid sex than actually have it.
You have stopped talking about him/herYou have lost so much interest in the relationship that you no longer bring it up when with family or friends.
You miss being singleThis is a scary place to be, as your thoughts of singledom can build resentment and have you working towards it as you think you might have more fun being detached and free.
You get excited about time aloneTogether time is good, but too much together time can be suffocating and you now long for time apart, time to be you and do what entertains you.
Someone else excites you. The thought of cheating on your partner with this new exciting person who is full of life and mystery and far different from what you have at home may psychologically arm twist you into believing that you’re in a boring, lifeless relationship that needs to be spiced up by having an affair.
