What are you looking for in a mate?
We all have a list, or even a mental note of the things we want in a partner, and as we mature and go through the many bumps in the road along life’s journey, our list will either expand or contract.
Some of us have lists that are a mile long with unrealistic expectations, others understand that sometimes expectations have to be thrown out the door as real life sets in.
Is your list realistic? What are you looking for in a mate?
Lucien, 38:
When I was younger I wanted a woman with good looks, but now I just want a real woman. A lot of women out there are too fake, trying to use their head on you to get what they want. I just want to meet someone who is genuine, with a good heart.
Rayshawn, 34:
I don’t work off lists, I work off a vibe and ‘spirit-take’. If I’m not feeling you I’m not going to push it and start something that I know isn’t going anywhere.
Tess, 31:
I used to dream of the perfect man, but you grow up and realise that there are only losers out there so it’s a race to see who is the best loser to work with.
Jacqueline, 39:
I have always wanted a man who knows how to be a man, a man who can step up to the plate and do manly things. A man who can be a real father and husband.
Dazia, 26
My ideal man has to be self-motivated and goal-driven. I can’t be with a man who only wants to run a mile. He has to be able to chase after his dreams and be prepared to put in the work to get there.
Sarah, 32:
He has to be able to wash, cook and clean. It’s a turn-off for me when a man can’t help himself.
Shanna-Lee, 24:
He has to know how to communicate effectively.
Julius, 37:
I would love to find a woman who is serious about life, someone who I can build a future with.
Terron, 33:
Ambition is a big plus for me along with good common sense. Not a lot of women think for themselves, they depend on family and friends to make choices for them.
Shaneika, 25:
I don’t think I would be asking too much if I wanted a man who was romantic and capable of loving. I have dated men before who didn’t know what love was, all they cared about was sex. There is more to me than that.
Mary, 29:
Right now, the way things are, I’d be lucky to find a man with a pulse. The women have outnumbered the men and good men have become so rare. I just want a man who knows how to treat me like the queen I am.
