Facebook hook-up dismay
MILLENIALS, or Generation Y as 21st Century youth are often called, sometimes receive flak for how they use technology and the Internet, particularly social media.
From spending too much time, posting constant updates, being narcissistic, and being caught up in the trend of posting selfies for likes, the downside of social media can outweigh the upside.
Deception is one of the main problems, as people will seek whatever means they can use to look or appear more beautiful or even more intelligent. As such, filters like Photoshop and other forms of editing will sometimes have them looking and appearing the complete opposite of how things are in real life.
Have you ever been deceived by someone on
Facebook?
Robert:
I met this girl on
Facebook. I messaged her and we started talking and I would go through her pictures and think to myself that she was a really pretty girl who was a bit conceited. Anyway, I proceeded with the wooing, and thought that she was really cool, and a great conversationalist. We decided to meet up in person and it took me a while before I could accept that it was the same person. Let’s just say that she was way below the perfection presented in the pictures. I liked someone based on the photos I had seen and in reality she wasn’t the same, so I was disappointed.
Frank
My disappointment was savage. What she did was to upload pictures of a relative and gave the impression that it was her. Now I was liking all these pictures and speaking to this individual until we agreed to meet and I saw her, a perfect representation of her photos. We were talking and I was wondering why she seemed so distant, so I asked her why she was acting like it was the first she was talking to me. She said, “Well, all this time my sister was using my pictures. I didn’t want to disappoint her so I came and tried to play along but this is wasting my time. She’s seated to the left of the food court.” I found it amusing, but thought that they couldn’t look very dissimilar since they were sisters. But I turned to look and was taken aback. The sister was chubbier, grumpy, and unflattering to the eyes. I spoke to her but the most I could think was that she was a good conversationalist and nothing more.
Samantha
I usually don’t expect much from people’s photos, but I never thought men could be deceptive or be into the whole idea of filtering photos. However, there was one guy who would always show just his face in photos and I sort of found it odd but didn’t think much of it. We spoke and agreed to meet at church. I was ushering that day and from knowing his face I could recognise him. But his body was disappointing. I had never seen his body, but he had described himself as ‘medium built and toned’. When he came through that door I saw that he was short with a paunch. I assisted him to his seat and ensured that I put my grouchy face on so he wouldn’t want to hang around to talk.
Anthoniel
Most of his pictures showed his abs and I saw his face like once, but the picture was blurry. Anyway, I decided to meet up, and he had terrible acne. I kept looking at the pimples instead of focusing on him or what he had to say.
Basil
She is a make-up artist so most of her pictures showed off her work. She looked amazing with the make-up and I’ve often heard that if you have great skin your make-up will be great too. Anyway, I took the pill and had faith. So when she agreed to meet up, I told her to come natural, and she agreed. Well, what do you know! I sat dumbfounded the entire time and kept thinking the real person would actually come and say ‘I fooled you’.
Cynthia
Well there was one guy who I decided to meet. I wore very large sunglasses and stood watching him pass me. I knew it was him, but he didn’t dress well. He was mega skinny and looked like he had jaundice. In his pictures he seemed healthy, but seeing him in person, if I didn’t compare his eyes and nose, I would never have guessed.
Darren
She had put up nice, slim, pretty pictures and when I met her in person she was fat, had shorter hair, and just looked different. I asked and her reason was valid enough. The photos were old and since she gained weight she hadn’t uploaded much. I did look at the dates and they were old for real. I could see it was her, but I wondered why the low self esteem and lack of confidence to upload new photos. She wasn’t ugly or anything. Just the difference in the photos disappointed me.
Sandra
I met this guy, he was good looking and everything, but how he angled the camera when taking his pictures made him seem fairly tall. I remember when I saw him I thought, “Where’s the rest of your body?”
