How to tell your boyfriend isn’t a real man
IT is the hope of every woman that she will find a man who will cater to her needs physically, mentally and emotionally. But there are times when immature boys, like wolves in sheep’s clothing, disguise themselves as men for as long as they are able to before they crack. Below is a list of signs to beware of, compiled from women who have been burned by posers.
1. He throws tantrums
He is not respectful, he is loud, and he says just about anything that comes to his mind when he is angry. He also starts arguing without allowing room for a discussion, arriving at his own conclusions without allowing you to explain or share your opinion.
2. He is scared to commit
He keeps saying that there is time, and that he enjoys the arrangement that you have now, with no clear definition of your relationship even though you have been with him for years. Along with this, he doesn’t want to move in with you as he’s still playing house with mommy, and he refuses to make plans for the future with you or have you formally meet his family and friends.
3. He doesn’t support you
He doesn’t try to understand what you are doing or encourage you when you are taking on something new. He has even subtly or explicitly discouraged you, so you will have time to take care of his needs only. So you’ll go through school, start your business, and fight for your promotion without the support and motivation from the person you consider your better half.
4. He makes relationship decisions alone
He doesn’t care about using money from your joint account to get new rims for his car, or reducing payments on the family health plan so he can have more disposable income. Or he gets upset when you are uncomfortable making specific changes in the bedroom. He pretends as though he is the source of life for the relationship and therefore you should accept all his decisions. He also never negotiates and becomes offended if you try to make relationship decisions without him.
5. He’s always right
He points fingers. He blames. He never entertains the idea that he is wrong. He thinks he is perfect and makes excuses for anything that he does which may be considered wrong so that he will never have to apologise.
6. He is a flirt
Not only is he insecure, but he flirts in front of you, on social media, and even next to you on phone calls and as a result you can’t trust him. His flirtatious habits also transcend into him being overly jealous. He becomes suspicious of everyone you talk to, usually because he is conscious of his own lifestyle.
