Buying a puss in bag
All Woman, Confessions
 on January 28, 2016

Buying a puss in bag

By VANESSA E CHAMBERS 

We all know the Jamaican phrase, that warrants a sampling of the goods before full commitment. But how does the puss-in-bag theory factor in when you’re in a Christian situation where there should be absolutely no relations before marriage?

Nordia, 38:

I would have to hold a taste-and-buy approach to this type of scenario. I’m not going into anything blind, worst of all sex.

Mellonease, 34:

I would have to test-drive him a few times, rev him out, to make sure he can handle my road. I would be silly not to have sex with this person before marrying him. Not to make it sound like sex is the only thing that is important to me in the relationship, but it is in the top three of what makes a relationship work, and if the sex isn’t good then it throws off the dynamics of the relationship.

Christopher, 42:

If I can’t have sex with you we won’t make it to the point of marriage. I have to know if she is going to be any good so I know how to approach the situation and if I should leave or she has enough potential to stay.

Alicea, 30:

I’m sorry, but if I met a man in my age group who said he was a virgin or born again virgin, then I would think that something was wrong with him. I don’t even think I would be curious to know what it would like to have sex with him.

Damian, 33:

I have to know what I’m getting. If someone was selling you a bottle of perfume, wouldn’t you want to smell it before you buy it?

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