Sweet revenge
Sometimes the best of relationships go sour, and may leave one person more bitter and thus open to the thought of sweet revenge. It’s worse if the party feels as if they have been wronged so badly that relief can only come from inflicting the same level of pain on the other person.
Below two readers share their revenge stories:
Andrea, 37:
I found out that my ex was busy having sex with different women while I was at work. I stuck with it because I had just found someone for him to marry so he could be legal in the United States and I loved him. I couldn’t marry him because I was already married (business marriage) to someone else. Even though he was cheating I had already started the process for him and had paid this person to marry him, so I had invested my money in this. I put up with the cheating until I found out he got a woman pregnant with twins. That was it for me. I kicked him out and he cursed me, calling me all sorts of names. I cried that night but the next morning I just decided I was going to mess him up. He thought that the paperwork was already submitted, and he was shocked to find out it wasn’t. During this time he had my name all over the place. But once he found out I still had the papers he kept telling me he was sorry. But it was too late. I had the person file for divorce. That’s the only paperwork he will be getting.
Max, 28:
My ex had a bad case of eczema and I spent a lot on her, taking her to the dermatologist. Her skin slowly started to clear up but things weren’t going so well between us. I felt as if her attention was being placed somewhere else. I kept asking her if things were OK between us and she said yes. But then she told me one night that she was seeing someone else, a guy from her office.
It was bad enough that she was cheating on me, but what made it worse was that I knew this person. He was even at my house when I threw a birthday party for her. I was so angry. We ended the relationship but I was still hurting.
I then saw her one day on the road. Her eczema was back and her skin looked really bad, and that was when an idea came to me. I called up the guy and told him she had AIDS, using her skin problems as a sign. He said she told him it was eczema and I told him that was the same lie she told me. He broke up with her.
I felt sorry for her but now she knew how I felt. I know that what I did was very childish, but I was hurting. I later apologised to her and the guy. She forgave me and a few months later we tried starting things over, but it didn’t work.
