Signs your man is very wrong for you
CHOOSING a good partner is a game of chance, and sometimes, depending on a woman’s situation, she will tolerate a few misfits in the hope of developing tolerance.
But sometimes tolerance is not enough to sustain a union, especially when one is faced with someone who is simply intolerable.
Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell says it’s easy to overlook the early warning signs that suggest your man may not be right for you, but you should open your eyes when the signs below are staring you in the face.
1. He is already in a committed relationship and tells you he is not
Dishonesty and distrust destroy a relationship. If he tells you this, not only can he do the same to you, should he eventually choose you, but it could mean that he is being untruthful about many of the other things that he shared with you.
2. He is giving 5% to the relationship while you’re giving 95%
A relationship is teamwork, which means there must be reciprocity to make the relationship work. If he is unwilling to invest as much in the relationship as you are, his head could be somewhere else.
3. He continuously abuses you physically and emotionally
Abusive relationships are dysfunctional; furthermore you should never allow anyone to beat up on you physically or emotionally. As soon as they begin to hurt you or even begin to suggest that they would, you should leave that relationship.
4. He does not share your interests, values and aspirations, and blocks your efforts to achieve good for yourself
You like art but he doesn’t care for it. He denigrates and dismisses your views of life. He does not support your dreams, and instead of encouraging you to excel, he creates a picture in which the cons outweigh the pros, and advises you to focus on what he would much prefer you to do.
5. He is selfish
You arrange nice dinners, get him things you believe he would love, and generally bend backwards all the time to ensure his happiness, but he never reciprocates. He never pays you any compliment unless he wants something, and he is often more interested in criticising the way you look and what you are doing. He always forgets your birthday and other special occasions.
6. He gives no indication that he is interested in you
He avoids doing anything with you (apart from sex), doesn’t want to talk about the future of the relationship, and chooses hobbies over spending quality time with you. He is not interested in listening to you or in anything concerning you.
7. He openly engages in acts of infidelity
He flirts with women in your presence and/or dates other women in your immediate town or community, without care of how people perceive you or the emotional damage that it would cause you.
