Relationship problems you just can’t fix
Everyone is happy when a relationship blooms, and eternal bliss is the recurring thought process of both parties involved.
But as the love blossoms, differences in character often come into play, and as a result conflicts arise.
Suddenly the way she squeezes the toothpaste becomes a problem, you no longer forgive him for leaving the toilet seat up, and when she doesn’t organise her stilettos by heel size, you become irritated.
However, those are fixable problems. The real deal comes when the issues you face leave you no option but to end the relationship.
Below Denecia Green, author of Lies Sex & Betrayal, shares with All Woman some relationship problems that can’t be fixed.
1. Your partner is needlessly defensive
Green said without a doubt, there will be times when your opinions will be completely different from your partner’s, but it may be so absurd that you are downright shocked. However, she said if your partner has the type of personality where he believes he is always right or doesn’t need to discuss an issue if he is not at an advantage, or if he is always counter-attacking or provoking the argument until he has the final word, then this is definitely problematic. “In relationships like this there is no way both of you can ‘agree to disagree’. As a couple, you need to recognise that no one wins when one of you always has to be right,” Green pointed out.
2. No trust
Green said there may be a few things that you would love to discuss with your partner, but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t muster up the courage to do so. Instead, she said some women bottle up their emotions, which ultimately leads to frustration, while their partners believe everything is perfectly all right. “If you’re not expressing your feelings, it shows that you are not completely comfortable with your partner. Relationships like these chip away your self-esteem and may result in you feeling anxious or disappointed in the relationship and probably unknowingly distancing yourself from your partner,” she said.
3. There is chronic infidelity
“Being in a relationship with a serial cheater can only be repaired if the unfaithful partner is honest about what happened and is fully prepared to leave the affair,” Green said. She added that this expectation is not likely to be achieved from a serial cheater, so these relationships are often plagued by perpetual lies, broken promises, heartache, and are nothing short of exhausting. “If your partner escorts you on this emotional roller-coaster every chance he gets, then you ought to give up trying to fix the relationship,” she said.
4. Incompatible sex drive
Green said it is important to establish the sexual compatibility between you and your partner at some point in the relationship before you both seriously commit to each other for the long term. “You may be spontaneous and desire to share your sexual pleasures with your spouse, but he seems to have zero interest in even listening to your fantasies, much less to fulfil them. Your partner will no longer seem attractive to you and you may begin to feel that the relationship is pointless. One of the major contributing factors to a happy, long-term relationship is a mutually fulfilling sex life,” she explained.
