Texting rules
TEXTING, by its very nature, demands quick responses. After all, if you were interested in snail mail you would have sent a telegram. But there are unwritten texting rules when it comes to dating and relationships, which can tell you where exactly you stand.
Does when he texts you back give any indication of your status in his life?
Chrissy:
If a guy is trying to be with me, especially if it’s very new, I would say five to 10 minutes response time is acceptable, unless he says he is doing something. If you realise the gaps are very wide and he doesn’t even have the decency to say what is keeping him away, then maybe he has other interests, and that could mean other people.
Donna:
I am an adult and I have things doing too, so I don’t expect him to be hitting reply as soon as I say something all the time. So I guess 15 to 20 minutes is a good response time. This could be longer but should not be constant, because then what kind of conversation would that really be? Also, if he always takes forever to reply, that could mean I would always have to fight for time with him.
Latoya:
I am not a big fan of texting and having this view I don’t have high expectations. But please don’t reply days later or like 24 hours later, because I already deleted the chat so it’s likely I have no idea what you are talking about or have lost interest.
Qwuessie:
I like being responded to in less than five minutes. It suggests very much that you are important to a person or at least that they are interested.
Marie:
A minute or two is OK. If we are going to be texting I expect that you would be doing it at a time that you are not caught up with doing other things. When a man responds this quickly it says that you are special or could be special to him.
Kayla:
If I text you and you are going to respond later than five minutes, I suggest that you try to call because after about a 10-minute gap, trust me, I start to think that you’re with another girl. And if you are already my man, of course you’d better send a paragraph about what you have been away doing for so long.
Sheriece:
If you text me several hours or days between, I am going to assume that you have a life that you would much prefer me not knowing about, unless you explain and provide evidence. I expect an interested party to respond within a five to eight-minute gap. That is decent.
Mieka:
If you are going to text me I am going to be hoping that you get the gist of how conversations work, because there’s nothing I hate more than extended monologues. I expect responses in under five minutes and that is more than reasonable because my usual text response is usually like about 60 seconds. You shouldn’t need to translate, Google, re-translate, or proofread more than twice, so you shouldn’t need more than five minutes. Responding with a reasonable five-minute gap shows that you are interested and you respect me and value my time.
