Signs you’re not sexually compatible
IT’S quite possible to be madly in love but your sex life is down in the dumps. The reasons may vary, but many couples tend to ignore the obvious sexual incompatibility when they rummage through memories or the habits of their significant others to provide evidence that the other is to blame for tepid bedroom action.
Sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill told All Woman that if the rule of thumb is anything to go by, then once you are always uncomfortable (anxious) in any way with a sexual partner, then you are incompatible sexually.
Below he shares signs that you and your partner are sexually incompatible:
Size differentials
A very large penis and unusually small vagina or very small penis and too loose vagina are common reasons on the list of sexual incompatibility. No true pleasure is achieved in either of these circumstances.
Value differences
Being pressured to engage in unwanted sexual acts or unwanted, unprotected sexual activity or exposure to trash talk are obvious turn-offs. You should never allow this. In fact, you may want to leave if your partner acts this way.
Libido differences
One partner always wants more sex than the other is comfortable with. This can often be affected by stress, workload, or even lifestyle choices such as drinking.
Self-centred sexual activities
One partner is more concerned or is largely interested in his/her own sexual satisfaction. For example, a man reaches his orgasm very fast, but does not care to continue stimulating his partner to reach an orgasm too. No interest is shown in correcting the situation, even at the partner’s request.
Sex is emotionally unfulfilling
There is little or no attention given to foreplay or any action that could stimulate any emotional chemistry at all. Sex is therefore almost always physical, but not satisfying.
They have a routine
One partner is always dominant or submissive in the sexual act. They are never spontaneous, usually are unwilling to step things up a notch, or bring it down just a little because they are comfortable with how they are.
