How to know he’s going to cheat
WHILE there is no device to measure a man’s intentions, relationship counsellor Wayne Powell says the key to identifying a cheating partner or potential cheat lies in observing them.
“In the dating or courtship period, even as you are madly in love and don’t want to spoil the fun, it makes sense to pay attention to certain behaviour patterns that indicate that your partner may have a challenge remaining faithful in the relationship,” Powell said.
Below he shares some red flags that could save you the embarrassment of actually catching him between the sheets with another woman.
1. Watch how he behaves around your female friends and family members. Does he tend to flirt with them in and out of your presence? He obviously has no respect for you or your family and friends and he is barefaced if he engages them in your presence. It also points to how far he would be willing to go with other females while not in your presence.
2. Does he find it difficult to turn down offers from females? If he is quick to give in to offers made by women, then these women could easily have their way with him.
3. Is he always engaged in X-rated conversations (text and audio) on his phone with women? If morning, noon and night, like clockwork, he engages women in conversations that he wouldn’t feel comfortable with you having with another man, be warned. These conversations are usually acted on, and once the other woman is encouraging even very mild flirting, it could develop into something much bigger.
4. Is he still visiting his ex, even though he is now in a committed relationship? The old adage ‘old fire stick easy fi ketch’ is very true and many are able to attest to it. Once you were sexually attracted to a person, in a split second anything could happen, especially if you still have the hots for them.
5. Is he always lying about his whereabouts? He says that he is at X when he always turns out to be at Y. This, of course, says he can’t be trusted — not only with his location, but it is obvious he is comfortable telling you lies. That’s the first thing a good cheater learns to do.
6. Does he tell you that he has a weakness for sweetness and can’t help himself? This is him telling you very plainly that he will mess up. But don’t get ready to forgive him, because he is not a child without an understanding of how to control himself.
7. Does he have close friends who are known womanisers whom he tends to laud and emulate? Many cheaters really do things to impress their friends, even when they really don’t want to. However, to fit in and to encourage acceptance and hopefully earn the ratings of these friends, then they need to replicate the actions of their idols.
8. Does he spend endless hours on the computer visiting porn sites? Does he visit strip clubs? His obsession with these things sends a signal that he is extremely sexual and obviously would enjoy not only watching, but enjoying other women.
