Bringing sexy back
Are you at the point in your relationship/marriage where your sex life has fallen into an abyss towards a slow and painful death? Hit the gym and start working out. Get your body in tip-top shape. Be prepared and stay in shape to keep up with the fun in the bedroom.. Get away from the children and the stress of work and everyday life. Go somewhere where you can put your mind at ease and you can relax and allow yourself to be more open to enjoying your time alone with your partner.• Put sex on your schedule. As unromantic as it may sound, if you are always busy then maybe it’s time to find time for sex – pencil it in and set your iPad or cell phone with a reminder so you won’t forget. As kids we were taught to put away our toys, but as grown-ups you can make a mess. Bring all the toys to bed and have some fun.• Get your partner in the mood. Don’t be a caveman or woman, drag your partner by the ankle back to the cave, and then just jump them. Try and put them in the mood for sex. This will put them in a better frame of mind and they will be more willing to participate. So if they like a full body massage and you haven’t figured out how to do it, start learning.• Bring sexy back. Men, stop wearing those torn up underpants and that off-white merino you got 10 years ago. And women, stop acting like the flexi rods have to be in your hair all day, every day, and stop walking around with the mind-set that you have accomplished it all now because you have him. Keep the sexy in the relationship by looking sexually inviting.• Don’t be predictable. If you keep putting on the same song and dance show it will get boring and your partner will lose interest. Do something different, change it up a bit, bring in some element of surprise. Don’t put all your surprises in one show; save some for other shows.• Reinvent yourself. Find creative ways to reinvent your performance. So if you’d usually do something vertically, reinvent it – try doing it horizontally. You would be surprised at how a simple change in position can work wonders.• Let loose. Stop being a stick in the mud. If you can’t be free sexually then when will you be free? Let your partner know your desires. If your partner doesn’t know what you like then you will never be sexually satisfied. Don’t suppress your sexual appetite.• Stop being a cry-baby. Stop talking about how tired you are and stop looking at sex as a chore. If sex is a chore to you then maybe you should not be in a relationship. Sex isn’t a one man show; it takes a minimum of two people (depending on what you are into).• Don’t be selfish. It’s not just about you reaching that point of climax and then it’s a wrap. What about your partner who hasn’t got to that place? Your aim should always be about pleasing your partner and your partner pleasing you.• Mental stimulation. Flirt a bit, tease your partner, find ways to excite them without putting a finger on them. Have them wonder what it is you might be thinking or have planned for them. You can mentally excite them via text, video, or pictures.
Here are a few pointers that might work for you.
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• Go on a vacation
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