Are you sexually compatible?

When people enter a relationship they usually go in thinking about how well they will get along with the person they are with, and more emphasis is placed on personality and sharing/having the same traits and interests. But rarely is sexual compatibility considered. The lack of compatibility in this arena usually occurs after things have gone downhill, and that is when people realise just how incompatible they are. And when the sex goes bad it can affect your relationship.•What is the level of your sex drive compared to your partner’s? You both need to be on the same page where this is concerned. It makes no sense to jump the gun and be with someone who has a low sex drive while your drive is so high it’s touching the sky. If you want sex two three times every other day and your partner wants it once every two weeks, do the math. It doesn’t add up. •Where does your sex meter start and stop? If your meter is in the range of kinky, role playing, dominatrix, whips and chains, and your partner’s meter is stuck on missionary all the time, then it may be time to have a conversation about where and how high the freak flag is going to fly, if it even gets to fly at all.•How open are you to compromising? For there to be any form of sexual satisfaction, there has to be a middle ground on which you are both able to stand comfortably.•Communication. Are you both comfortable talking about sex, your needs, wants and expectations? Keep in mind that not everyone is comfortable with this type of conversation.•Willing to please. Is your partner aware that sex is not a one-man show? If your partner is a member of the ‘all about me’ parade, then this might be an issue that you will need to address before it goes too far.•Are you happy? If there are issues in the relationship, this could bleed into your sex life, throwing your sexual rhythm off track.

Here are a few things to think about before jumping into a relationship.