How far have you gone to get your man?

WHEN it comes to relationships, men are traditionally considered the hunters while the women subtly lead them on. But the roles have somewhat changed, as more and more women are taking the bull by the horns and going after the men they want.

Below some women tell All Woman the extent to which they’ve gone to get their man.

Jinelle:

His girl obviously didn’t appreciate him. He is a good man, works hard, helps around the house, and gave her anything she wanted. He had been showing interest in me for a while and my friend, who was also their neighbour, told me how badly she handled him. I gave in to his subtle advances, but I didn’t intend to be the side chick for long. The thing is that the girl’s father was the one who employed him and he had only started working a few months earlier. Since the job was the only thing she had over him, I told him to quit, which he did, and moved in with me. While he job-hunted I paid his student loans and sent him on a mini vacation so he could rejuvenate himself.

Marsha:

I know a friend of mine who was so in love with a man that she went all the way to St Thomas for oil of this and oil of that. I remember how she befriended him since he didn’t seem very interested in her outside of a friendship. I don’t know how she got him to use the oils, but she did, and while I try not to believe in obeah, she swears by its powers.

Julie:

Years ago, when I was young and stupid, my father died leaving me a house. I was an only child for him, but my younger half-sister and brother had come to live with me in town. After about seven months of dating my ex, he moved in and he wanted them out because he said they were disrespectful and were putting too much pressure on me though I didn’t feel the same way. But I wanted him to be comfortable and I also wanted what I thought at the time was happiness. Even though after our break-up my siblings forgave me and we have grown closer, it still bothers me — the sacrifice I would make for a man.

Ver:

I left my house, leaving my kids behind so that I could go and live with my man. They say love is blind and I now know it to be true, because it’s not like this man was accepting me and my kids or making life much better for me. I washed, cooked and cleaned for him and I guess I’m too ashamed to say I was crazy for the sex. Silly me. I didn’t even want to go back for my children when my mother died. I’ve been criticised and that’s alright, because I have seen my mistake and I would never choose a man over my children again.

Katie:

I’m in no way proud of what I did, but when I was younger, I think about 17, I didn’t only call and harass the girlfriend of a guy who I was side chick to, but when she told me offensive words I got my friends to come with me so we could beat her up, and I pretended to have an uncle who’s a famous criminal to threaten her.

Every time I see her I want to apologise because I feel so bad for having done that. Yes, I got the man, and the worst part is… he wasn’t even worth it.

Tami:

I agreed to fulfil his kinky fantasies — 50 Shades of Grey style — even though it was far from what I ever wanted.

Anastacia:

I wrote my number on a piece of paper, placed it in his top pocket then cursed him in front of people to misdirect them. I then told him some very x-rated stuff to see if it would spark interest.

Sheryl:

I painfully studied football and struck up conversations along that line so he would think I was interested and could reason about things he enjoyed.

Mauve:

The guy at the time told me that if I lost 20 pounds he’d date me. I went on a starvation diet, eating only crackers and water for four months, just to get him.

Rochelle:

When I was sick I lied about my diagnosis. As a result he was more affectionate and empathetic towards me and we built a closer bond.

Stacey-Ann:

A man I liked told me if I slept with him, it would be the ultimate sign that I cared and was interested in him. Being young and naive I took the bait and went as far as Sovereign Centre to buy a pack of rose petals to sprinkle on my bed.

Melaine:

We were in the same programme at university but somehow we never spoke, so I made the first move by asking him what free electives he was doing and said, “Oh, I’m in those classes too.” I went home, signed up for them, then asked him to be my study partner. From there our friendship grew until it blossomed into a steady dating relationship.

Ramona:

I went to his church, got involved, placed myself in all his evangelism and other small groups and ensured I was seen by actively participating and volunteering to do any and everything. Eventually he called and spoke to me expressing an interest. I played like it was a total surprise