Signs your mate is totally fed up with you
FRUSTRATION in relationships is not always overt, and many people are secretly harbouring annoyance with their mates. Recognising that your partner is bored, annoyed or simply fed up is not easy to do, as denial may cloud your judgement. But when it’s time to face the truth, these signs of frustration will either mean you’ve done your time or need to work at saving your union.
How do you identify them? Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell said a few signs your partner is fed up with you include:
1. Choosing to spend more time with others
Powell said if your significant other would rather spend extended periods of time with friends, family and associates, then he or she may be annoyed with you or something you’ve done, and is just avoiding you.
2. Constantly picking fights
The relationship counsellor said frustration often leads to arguments and a flare-up of tempers.
3. Frequent disrespect
Powell said if your spouse constantly disrespects you, especially in public, it’s a sign that his or her care and patience have run thin.
4. Lack of contact
If no effort is being made to call or contact you, the relationship counsellor said your partner may be avoiding you or has become disinterested and frustrated with you.
5. Disregard for your presence
Powell said another sign of frustration involves your partner behaving coldly towards you and even disregarding your presence.
6. Being demeaning
The relationship counsellor said frustration may manifest in your partner being overly critical of you and neglecting to pay you compliments.
7. A breach of trust
“If your partner shares your secrets with others, he or she may be frustrated to the point where they want you to leave,” Powell said.
8. No regard for special dates
He said if your partner deliberately forgets your birthday or anniversary, he or she may be annoyed with you and is making an attempt to upset you.
9. Overt infidelity
If your partner flaunts infidelity, Powell said it is a sign of disrespect, and that he or she may have moved on from the relationship.
10. Not associating with you
Powell said it is important to not brush aside your partner’s refusal to go out or be seen in public with you.
Powell said when you see these signs, it’s important to know that your mate is trying to send you a message. So those who have eyes to see, let them see and those who have ears to hear, let them hear.
