Signs your relationship is headed for marriage
YOU both love each other, and things seem to be taking the path you had long envisaged. However, you are still uncertain whether your relationship has reached the stage that will lead to holy matrimony.
How will you know? Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell shares some indicators below that will help you identify your status:
You make long-term plans together, like buying a house
You have already made plans to buy a house together, you are even discussing merging your points at the National Housing Trust or other facilities to build what you have both decided will be your family home.
Parents and family members are involved
You have already met each other’s family and share a very good relationship with them. If the family invites you over, this is significant. Families are good at picking up when one of their members is comfortable in a relationship. In fact, their invitation reveals their interest in you. Speaking highly of a significant other is usually the main reason that family invites you over.
You have been introduced to friends, co-workers and family as the significant other
When they have introduced you to the people who matter most as their boyfriend/girlfriend, you know that this person is serious.
You are always seen in each other’s company at social and sporting events
It’s almost expected now; there is no longer a need to invite each other out. You just know that once an event comes up, you will be attending together.
You have made a structured developmental plan for the future of the relationship
You both have intentions for the future of the relationship and you see each other getting engaged — a precursor to marriage. At least one partner has brought the subject up and the other seems to welcome it.
You have openly expressed your commitment to each other and the relationship
There is no question as to whether or not you are committed to each other because this is made clear either by words or actions. You don’t only say you love each other, but you are supportive of each other and you are always considering the feelings of your partner — how a decision you make will affect them, and generally consider them in almost every personal, professional and social engagement that you may have.
You share personal and confidential information with each other
Information that you consider very private and would only share with a trusted confidant, if anyone at all, is shared with that person, and you feel very comfortable doing it.
You spend quality time getting to know and understand each other
You are vested in each other. You take the time out to spend quality time with each other, to understand each other, to discover their likes and dislikes, to share important experiences, and to learn new things about each other. You look forward, more than anything, to this time spent together.
Your values, goals, and vision align
You understand each other’s values and morals, and you are either willing to negotiate or see eye to eye with your partner.
