Is being able to cook and clean essentials when choosing a mate?
TRADITIONALLY, a woman’s job in the home was to ensure that everyone was nurtured, meaning the children were raised well, food was always prepared, clothes were washed and ironed, the home was clean, and her man was satisfied.
But over the years gender roles have changed; women entered the workforce and then began to seemingly pay less attention to housekeeping duties.
Wagging tongues would indicate that such women are not fit to be wives or taken seriously, but are these things essential to a relationship? Do men particularly seek out women who will ensure that apart from sexual gratification, all their meals are prepared and the home is well kept?
Ryan, married:
Maybe not “essential”, as many happy relationships exist and last without the woman being able to cook or keep a home. What is important is the definition of roles so that the home can run smoothly. So she may not cook, but she’s in charge of having food ready by directing the helper to cook or ordering take out. Similarly, the man may be in charge of security, but that doesn’t necessarily mean him buying a firearm. It could simply mean he takes control of burglar bars, outside lights and home security installation.
Jermaine, married:
Hell yes! The way I was brought up is that my mom always showed my baby sister the importance of homemaking, and my mom says that it’s ‘wutliss’ woman alone who can’t wash, cook and clean.
Winston, single:
In my opinion, those criteria are ranked very high. Mi cyaan tek nastiness and mi like fi eat. It also depends on what you want as an individual. Simply put, I’m a clean person, neat if you must, so a woman who appreciates the same is good. The same goes for food, and which man doesn’t like to eat?
Christopher, single:
I don’t think those are essentials, especially among educated men. Personally, if I’m with someone and we live together, we can share duties.
Marlon, single:
Yes they are, but women nowadays don’t have time for those things. She doesn’t have to do it every day, but we not going to Popeye’s on a Sunday.
Rory, single:
For me those are qualities men look for. But you have two types of men: rural men like myself and the urban upper-class men. The rural men tend to want women to emulate their moms in some kind of way, and those are things we grew up seeing mommy doing. It may not be the same for the man who grew up with helpers. It is something embedded in me to the point where I love cooking and enjoy cooking. But I don’t want a woman who can’t cook or keep a home.
Chad, single:
Those are a plus. It makes sex even better in some cases too, because the woman won’t just be an accessory.
Jermaine, married:
Absolutely. A well-rounded woman is essentially a keeper — deeply spiritual, sensual, confidence builder, and knows how to keep and maintain a home. Quintessential fact is that women are generally nurturers and men who are at the stage of their lives to settle down will want and seek such women. Women should never depart from the nurturing role in my opinion, no matter how sophisticated they are.
Okeno, married:
I don’t mind. It’s a plus, but it’s not all that there is. I can do all that by myself. She can do it and I appreciate that, but it’s not the basis of the relationship. Love, understanding and respect are the true fundamentals of a real relationship.
