What’s the biggest sacrifice you’ve made for a partner?
YOU may have been told that love is a sacrifice and a person who truly loves another will do just about anything to ensure their well-being. The story making the rounds online is of a man seeking advice on the best way to move forward, having fallen out of love with his girlfriend who had underwent life-threatening surgery to provide him with a kidney. He said that now, some time after the surgery, he has grown apart from his love of five years, but does not want to be made out to be the devil if he leaves, though he knows staying will make him feel “conflicted, torn and trapped in a loveless relationship.” His girlfriend, who cyberspace now describes as the ‘unfortunate heroine’, is the epitome of sacrifice.
Would you make such a sacrifice for your significant other? What is the biggest sacrifice that you have made for the person you believed you would spend the rest of your life with?
Joy:
Joy:
I endured abuse, although I knew it was wrong, and when he got sick I still took care of him, even though I knew he didn’t deserve it. Once I even went as far as to “sugar daddy road” for money to take care of the family. But I am wiser now and I have corrected my mistakes and am doing well.
Natalie:
Natalie:
My cousin’s girlfriend stepped between him and a gunman and told the gunman to shoot her instead of him during a robbery. But my cousin got married to another girl overseas to get his papers, and now that his papers have come through, he’s planning to get divorced and marry a different girl. The one who wanted to take the bullet is still hoping he will come back to her.
Meisha:
Meisha:
Well, my daughter had a little attitude problem and instead of working on it, I sent her to my parents because my man never liked her attitude. I also remember knowing my daughter needed stuff, but buying for things for my hubby instead. I don’t know if you consider those big, but that is my piece.
Kevaughn:
Kevaughn:
My girlfriend has a heart condition that is preventing her from having children; well maybe not preventing her, but which puts her at great risk of death even before the baby would come to term. So we decided that having children, at least biological children, would be too dangerous. We are opting to adopt instead, even though she said I could try outside. I know what that can do to a relationship. I am staying by her side because plenty children out there need a family.
Teddy:
Teddy:
This was years ago when I was a young officer in Jamaica. We were working in St Elizabeth at the time — Jamaica’s ganja capital. Well, I was in love with this ‘browning’ in town; good woman, good, weed-smoking woman. We would go into the hills to do our raids, and when we did the confiscation, I would bring back bags of weed for her and her sisters. Looking back on it now, having moved abroad, I can see how stupid I was for risking my job and my freedom for her. But at the time I was too in love and didn’t realise that, if caught, I could have been locked up for a long time.
Alyssa:
Alyssa:
I have a girlfriend who is making the ultimate sacrifice for her babyfather — someone who has refused to marry her and who treats her like dirt, by the way. He has slept with the whole neighbourhood and even brings women to their shared home when she’s at work. Well, recently she told me that she had contracted various STDs from him, and each time he says he is fine and she must be the problem. He refuses to get tested. So she’s putting her health at risk being with this man who continues to infect her, because he refuses to acknowledge his problem, and refuses to use protection.
