Why you shouldn’t be friends with your ex
THERE is a school of thought which holds that it’s OK to befriend your ex because both parties should have moved on, and you would have built a friendship with mutual respect for each other. However, others believe that this is impossible, as chances are, the relationship hadn’t ended well.
Here are four great reasons to consider staying away from your ex-lover:
1. It is easy to go back to what is familiar. This is the place that you were comfortable with even if it was a place of emotional pain. This trap is easy to fall into and so it is wise to leave your ex-lover where he/she belongs – in the history files of your life.
2. It is disrespectful to your present relationship if you are in one. It sends the wrong message to your current partner that you are holding on, and it can and will threaten your relationship.
3. You will find out things you don’t need to know about you ex. Your ex will probably start revealing things about the past that won’t be healthy if you are trying to progress and move forward. You cannot move forward if you are still trapped in the past.
4. It can attract negativity to your current relationship. Relationships are very delicate and when you end one, it is best to walk fully away as you could possibly take all the negative energy to your new relationship. It is already difficult to heal and deal with a new relationship, in addition to having the past linger.
While some people will entertain their ex-lovers and call them “friends”, it is best to leave the past where it belongs even if things ended on a great and peaceful note.
