How to keep a man
THERE is absolutely nothing wrong with being comfortable in your relationship; in fact, it can be a plus. The concerns kick in when you actually allow this comfort to slip into your sex life and morph into ugly habits such as laziness and becoming routine. This could kill your partner’s sexual curiosity and spontaneity and cause your relationship to die a slow, painful death. But how do you prevent a mundane, monotonous sex life?
Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell has offered a recipe to developing a cure for monotony:
1. Build and maintain a solid intimate connection with a partner. Learn each other’s love language
You should always want to do new things with your partner. You should develop an understanding of their likes and dislikes, and exploring and understanding their love language affords you this. This kind of connection will always guide you to sexually please your partner.
2. If one or both has a busy schedule, set aside a particular time of day or night to engage in passionate lovemaking
Never allow a busy schedule to stymie your sex life. Schedule sex if needs be, engage in quickies if you must, and explore new places to get your naughty on. The time doesn’t matter once you use it well.
3. Don’t take each other for granted
Be sensitive to the sexual needs of your partner and respond appropriately, even though you may not be in the mood. You may not be in the mood and that is fine, and you can say this to your spouse, but then make it up to them in a very steamy way next time around. Never just shake them off. Also, sometimes even when the mood isn’t right for you, making an effort for someone you love is just what you need. Your love for the person is also measured in this moment. You sometimes have to make sacrifices, no matter how small, for your romantic partner.
4. Keep your body in good physical condition and look appealing for your partner
You should at all times try to make your body as appealing as when you and your partner first met. Dress as sexy for him or her like you did while you were just meeting. Do the haircut or hairstyle that your partner likes more often. Your partner is looking for the man or woman he/she saw in you when you first got together.
5. Be creative and try new and innovative approaches
Nothing should be off the table unless your partner is uncomfortable with something. Whether it is through games, role play or even toys, you should know how adventurous your partner wants you to be. Sex that is routine is boring and a turn-off.
6. Go on a vacation just to change the scenery a bit
This gives you the opportunity to focus on each other, to enjoy each other’s company, and to relax. Taking time to focus on your love and sharing in the joy you had while you were still a sexually spontaneous and curious couple could possibly ignite a desire for that kind of spontaneity again.
