The cellphone: Access granted?

Keeping a password on, or being too secretive with the cellphone has been a problem in many relationships. Some people have searched their partners’ cellphones and got the surprise of their lives; others have found that there was no basis for whatever they suspected, but that the breach of privacy eroded trust that cannot be regained.Vere: I do search my man’s phones because I need to know what he is doing. He doesn’t even know I have his passwords.Shan: Every woman should search because some of these men are snakes!1. You will misread your partner’s character. You can come across a message between your man and a female friend joking around and calling each other ‘hon’ or ‘sweetie’ and immediately you misconstrue that your man is cheating.2. You become addicted to “lurking”. You will tell yourself you won’t dig deeper if you notice a password on your man’s cellphone, but you will find yourself digging, and when a habit like this reveals itself, you are about to wreck your relationship.3. You learn things about your partner that it was best not to know. You could see a message of him asking a friend about some sexual enhancement product, for example, and this can make you look at him in a different light.

Why does a woman venture into the cell-searching arena?

But I believe a man should be given his freedom and should never feel imprisoned or supervised. It has absolutely nothing to do with keeping secrets, but it is about respecting each other’s privacy.

Here are three reasons why you should not go through your partner’s cellphone:

It is simply best to give your partner his privacy and respect that. If you have to lurk, it may be time to walk away as your relationship should be fortified by trust.