Settling for love

Many women especially are fearful of being alone as they get up in age, leaving them to lower their standards and entertain men they wouldn’t have usually. This stems from a fear of being alone, of ever finding the right person to have children with, and the attached stigma of not being coupled up by a certain age.Jodi:Marlon:Suz:Sandra:

We asked people, would you settle if you found that love seemed to be passing you by?

Heck no! I’m not going to attach myself to anyone because I am fearful of being old and alone. I’d rather pleasure myself and stay alone than be in a relationship that is going nowhere.

I would never say never. I have a female friend who I hang out with, she has her man and I’m single. We’ve never been intimate but I opened up to her the other day, saying we would be the perfect couple because everything she complains that her man doesn’t do, I would do for her with ease. She’s not really my type, but if one night she’s crying I might just give in and offer comfort.

I can’t settle, I just can’t. My parents, especially my mother, have been on my case about getting rid of my ‘list’, but I can’t, especially because of how men are these days. I am dating and choosing carefully and if I reach 100 years old and still don’t have a man, that’s just how it goes.

I dropped my standards a bit and I found the love of my life. Sometimes we need to be humble and understand that there is no such thing as the perfect man or woman. Most of the standards we have are unreal anyway – we want a handsome man with money, career, and the perfect character. He doesn’t exist, ladies! I had a ridiculous view of the man I wanted and to be honest, my husband is nothing like the man I dreamt of marrying. But my husband turned out to be even more to me. Relax the standards and just live!