How important is compatibility?
It has been said by many that compatibility in relationships is like gas to a car – it drives it. However, there is also the popular saying that “opposites attract”, which seems to debunk the compatibility rule. So which is better? Being perfectly moulded to your partner, or being like oil and water, not mixing, but still having an explosive union?
Michelle:
If there is no compatibility, it makes no sense, really. I was dating this guy and every time we went out, we had nothing to say to each other. I was so bored I started to think about cartoons. If you’re going to be in a relationship that is meaningful, it has to have some commonality or it will implode.
MG:
If someone is exactly like me, I will be bored. There has to be some friction in everything so I do not subscribe to the notion about compatibility being the driving force in a relationship. I have been married for almost a decade and what makes my marriage work and exciting is simply the fact that we are different and we love that about each other. We both understand that our unique qualities are what make life interesting.
Robert:
Compatibility is not what drives a relationship because two people can be compatible and still have a boring relationship or no spark. It also doesn’t ensure stability or prevents cheating. It is nice to have someone who likes the things you do, but if you don’t, you can also appreciate the differences and still have a fulfilling relationship.
Sue-Ann:
I could never be with someone who I am not compatible with. The persons must have something in common or it really makes no sense. I would feel like I am wasting my life.
