Women tell: the pros and cons of dating a married man
WOMEN who have affairs with married men are often stigmatised — dubbed Jezebels of the lowest order. But still many persist, insisting that it’s the perfect set-up for them. All Woman sought responses from some of the ladies in this situation. What kept them involved, despite the obvious drawbacks attached?
Grace, 40:
When I was in my 20s I dated a married man. That relationship allowed me to save a lot of my salary, because he was very generous with money and gifts. But I hated that we couldn’t go out freely as a couple.
Tanya, 30:
I am dating a married man right now. We spend weekends at guest houses and hotels in other parishes, once in a while. That’s nice, but it would also be great to catch a movie after work or go to events together.
Simone, 25:
In the first part of college my boyfriend was a married man. We could not go out in public. He gave me money all the time, but he was also controlling and jealous. We argued because of this. In the last argument he hit me, and that’s when I ended the relationship.
Sonia, 50:
For many years I dated a married man. I was blinded by the money. He told me that he couldn’t leave his wife until about five years after we started dating, because she came from money and he wanted to save enough for us. His family members who knew of the affair were disrespectful to me, and even insulted me in public.
Kerry-Ann, 33:
I benefited a lot from my past relationship with a married man. He always paid my rent and bills, and he gave me half the money towards my first car. But I hated sneaking around and not being able to introduce him to my family and friends.
