Fighting it out
A lot of arguments in intimate relationship flare due to poor communication skills. Many people listen, only to talk back or to start more issues. For you to fully resolve any issue in your relationship, you have to first listen with respect, which means you listen more than you speak so you attack the issue and not the person. If you and your partner are going at it at the same time, all you will be doing is adding more fuel to the fire.
How do you and your partner communicate when there is an argument?CD:Well, we are usually screaming at each other until he calms down and then he will apologise and we will talk calmly about whatever the problem was.Ryan:My girl is the one always fussing and cussing. I am very chill because I know in the moment of being angry, I will say things and I know very well it will hurt her if I do utter what I’m thinking in the moment so I just chill and let her vent. When she is done, I give her some loving.MC:Whenever there is a problem, my man just walks away. To be very frank, I am extremely frustrated telling him how much I hate when he does this to me. He never argues with me, he avoids me and he will keep this up for days.Shan:He blocks me all the time. Instead of talking about the problem, he hides. It is really annoying but most men love to avoid confrontation.Sherry-Ann:We actually talk about stuff after we vent. I don’t know of any relationship that speaks sweetly through arguments.
