When he’s down will you be out?

Life happens to best of us. It can sometimes knock you to your knees, and have you crawling for years to get back up again. Things can get even harder in relationships, when you’re not only responsible for yourself, but for someone else’s well-being as well. And when life happens and one partner hits the dust, what happens?

Does the ‘better or worse’ mantra applies when the man, who is supposed to be the provider is down and out? What must a woman do when her man, who is supposed to be the stronger force, is on the verge of losing it?

Sandra:

Encourage your man. There were times my man and I had nothing to eat and I held us down and he remembers this now that he is on top of his game and is making major moves. Some women only want the cake but don’t want to buy the ingredients. Push your man and feed his ambition.

Brit:

If my man is down, I am out. A man is supposed to be the head so if he is down, he will lead me to ‘down’ too and I can do without that in my life.

TD:

My man has held me down when I was in college and even after. We had a baby and got married about five years ago. He was in an accident and from then he has been unable to work.  I am basically the breadwinner and I have no issues because if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t even be where I am today. I am a director for a major organisation and I want to share my experience because a lot of these young folks know nothing about relationships or marriage but they crave it like food. You cannot run when life starts throwing rocks; learn to use the rocks and build a home and a future.

JC:

Motivate your man so he can rise again. You will benefit. No matter how you see men act, they know very well who is their ‘day 1’ and they never forget.

Tianna:

If things hit the ceiling and the first thing a man or woman chooses to do is run, keep that person out of your life.