We argue and argue…
What is the most frequent reason for arguments in your relationship? Fact is, arguments will spring up in all relationships whether intimate or not, and the easiest way to resolve any issue is to first confront what exactly it is.
Some couples share their experiences below:
Couple A (Jen & Robert):
Jen: I think we argue about money a lot because I am the saver and he is the spender. It is hard on both of us when all he does is spend when I am trying to get us from paying rent to being homeowners.
Robert: Definitely money. She thinks because we’re married she controls my cash flow and we argue about that all the time to the point where I’ve started taking a cab to work and letting her drive the car just to avoid arguing with her about money.
Couple B (Marsha &Dean):
Marsha: He never has time for me. So I would say I think he is cheating and so I am always looking for clues in everything he does.
Dean: She loves to accuse me and more while I feel like I’d better cheat for real. Because if you insist that I’m cheating, I might as well I do it.
Couple C (Judith & Mark):
Judith: I would say we argue a lot about him not helping me around the house and with the kids. He is always tired and I am the one always doing this and that and I get real frustrated at times and say things to him I am sorry about.
Mark: Her mouth, sigh, mi a tell yuh – only God knows. She cuss seh mi nuh help her wid housework but mi build houses for a living. That is manual labour so when I am home, man just want to relax. Mi understand that she tired more while, but I even suggested getting a maid and she blew off that idea so I really have no idea what next to do.
