Why you need closure after a break-up
Reality is, sometimes relationships fail no matter how great the chemistry, no matter how creative the sex is, no matter how long the couples know each other. For some, they will be lucky enough to know the reason why the relationship ended, but others are left with no reason or explanation. How important is this kind of closure? We asked people and this is what they had to say.
Latoya:
My ex walked out on our seven-year relationship with a text message, “I am sorry, I cannot go further with us.” That was it and it tore me up for months because he blocked me from reaching out to him on all social media and his phone. After a year or so, I saw him at a supermarket and I decided to confront him right there and he explained to me that it wasn’t about me because I was perfect, but he cheated and got someone else pregnant and he knew it would have destroyed me since we had been trying for so long and weren’t successful. Even though listening to it hurt like hell, I needed it to move on. Closure is important to women.
Ryan:
As a man, I want to say on behalf of all men, we don’t give closure. If the relationship didn’t last we just move right along and believe me, we’re not thinking about whether our exes moved on or not because we already did. So ladies, stop seeking closure – just move on.
Deon:
If I am done with a woman I am done and I don’t wish to talk about what went wrong and why it did because I am done. So usually what I do after a break-up is change everything – numbers and everything.
Crystal:
My ex ended our relationship nine months in and I was totally blindsided because I thought we just had fights and weren’t talking or communicating when the truth is that he had moved on. It was when I decided to confront him about malicing me that he confessed to me that he was seeing someone. Men are awful communicators, and if you’re done with me just tell me instead of misleading me to think we’re together when it is not the case.
LD:
Closure is important to every woman because we want to know what happened so we can try not to make that mistake again with our next relationship.
