Success, after a struggle to get pregnant
PREGNANCY issues don’t discriminate, in fact, statistics show that infertility is a widespread problem which hampers the natural conception process for many couples. There are many factors that would impact the ability of a sexually active, non-contracepting couple to achieve a pregnancy, and it’s a source of pain for many couples.
Many couples never achieve success, even after introducing scientific intervention. But others do, even when the odds seemed stacked against them. These three couples share how they became parents after years of infertility, and when hope seemed to have been lost.
TJ and N Henry, 38 and 36. Parents of two:
TJ: The many tests we did showed that there was absolutely nothing wrong medically with either of us, but nothing was happening two years after we were married when we decided to start trying for a baby. Nothing happened, and boy did we try and try for a year and a half. There were no miscarriages or anything, I just was not getting pregnant. I finally accepted that maybe we just were not compatible, and so we decided to adopt. We were lucky to find a mother, a young relative of my husband’s, and we adopted her child. And it was a bit of serendipity after the adoption — the baby was with us for less than a year, when by some miracle, and without even trying, I got pregnant. Now we have two under four, and we couldn’t be happier.
Chris and Tia, 31 and 35. Parents of one:
Tia: I had a whole lot of problems and my clock was ticking. I got pregnant and we decided to get married. The day after the wedding, I had the first miscarriage. We tried again, and 10 weeks in, I had another miscarriage. We tried again, and I had a blighted ovum. It was like everything that could go wrong was going wrong. I decided to stop trying for a whole year to give my body a rest. Then my doctor put me on Clomid, and the first two rounds failed. It was the third round that did it, and by that time I had decided that I was done trying because the side effects were just so horrible. But that’s when I got pregnant — without even trying really, and after basically giving up. Now we have our little girl, and if another one comes, we will be happy, but we’re already joyful.
Nathan and Peta-Gaye, 45 and 42. Parents of one:
Peta-Gaye: Herbal remedies worked for us, and we tried various things. I was diagnosed with a blocked tube and spent about five years trying to get pregnant with no success, so we decided to try the roots man. He gave my husband medina, and I know I got dandelion, red clover, and dog blood bush at intervals. I don’t know if it was the tonics, or luck, or God, but we got pregnant and now have a baby. I think our ancestors knew a lot about herbal medicine and used them successfully, so sometimes old-time medicine is better than modern medicine.
