WHEN suspicions about cheating persist, behaviours change, your intuition tells you something is off, and communication breaks down, some people will leave, and others will attempt to find out the truth by using secretive methods like snooping or spying. Some people find nothing at all and can breathe a sigh of relief, and others hit the jackpot.
How did you catch your partner cheating?
I suspected that he was up to no good for a while, but I was on my way out anyway, and he was just giving me ammunition. Then I found condom wrappers in his car console and didn’t say anything to him. I took them up, acted as normal, and then placed them in our bathroom bin. I knew he had seen them because his mood shifted immediately. I could see the gears going off in his head, while he tried to figure out if I was the one messing around, and my man left them there, or if I had found his, and was playing mind games with him. This went on for a week, then one morning he came to me crying, asking about another man. That’s when I told him what I’d found, and told him to leave my house.
We both had a lot of events to attend over the holidays, and we have different friend groups so we went separately for quite a few of them. I was on this random company’s page viewing their holiday party, when I spotted him in the background — he was blurry, but I knew the outfit, and he was all over another woman. I browsed some more photos until I saw the woman more clearly — mind you, my man made sure to stay away from the camera — and I could identify her as someone I was suspicious of, who he had told me in the past not to worry about.
I got an invitation from a photographer we had used years ago for Christmas pictures, to do more family photos this year. This was years and years ago, when our children were still babies. Anyway, I briefly considered it, and one day when I was bored, went on the photographer’s page to view some of his work. Would you believe that one of the featured photos was my man, and another woman, in Christmas PJs?
Someone sent me an anonymous message with photos and videos of her and her work husband getting cosy at work. It was like scenes from the movie Unfaithful. I still don’t know who the person is, but there it was, in full colour. When I confronted her she didn’t deny the affair, but concentrated more on people at work who were trying to tear her down, and wanted her position.
I opened her phone with her fingerprint when she was sleeping, just curious, I guess. Well, I saw that she had met up with her ex several times, and she “loved” and “missed” him. I haven’t said anything to her, because I’m messing around too, so I guess we’re even.