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His biggest secret
All Woman, All Woman Front Page, Feature, Relationships
 on November 4, 2024

His biggest secret

ALAISHA THOMAS 

“WHEN a secret is revealed, it is the fault of the man who confided it”. The men below take this quote from French philosopher Jean de La Bruyère literally – to mean that if you’re crazy enough to reveal certain secrets, woe be on to you when it comes time to face the consequences.

In this culture of oversharing, many people are not able to keep anything to themselves, but the fact is, according to the men, some secrets, especially in relationships, are meant to be kept thus.

These are some of the biggies that they’ll continue to keep from their significant others, to keep the peace.

Steve, 35:

Yes, I did get married to her for my papers, but my mind changed after I realised that she treats me better than anyone else I ever dated. We’re happy, and the marriage is going well, but I’d never tell her that initially her friends and family were right, and all I wanted to do was escape Jamaica and would have literally married any woman who showed interest.

Truwayne, 40:

My wife and my babymother have never gotten along, and to keep the peace I told my wife that I’d cut contact with her until our daughter was old enough to communicate with me by herself. She doesn’t know that I could never do that, and that I still communicate with my babymother daily about our daughter, because I could never throw away my blood for a woman. But because she has the funds, I have to just build and pretend otherwise.

Mighty, 43:

I can’t have kids, but the two women who have said I’m their babies’ father don’t know this. I accept the kids because I love them and they’re innocent, but the women both think they tricked me, when I’m the one that’s wiser. I don’t know if the truth will eventually come out, but I’m not the one who will reveal it.

Leighton, 45:

I don’t know what my wife is doing with herself, and all the frowsy wigs and extra weight is super unattractive to me, but I can’t say anything because she had bad post-partum and I don’t want to trigger her. I don’t know what I did in my past life to deserve this, but sometimes I think I’m being punished, and I don’t know why.

Stewart, 30:

I did not graduate college; in fact, I didn’t even graduate high school and dropped out in grade 10. My fiancée doesn’t know any of this, neither does my employer, who didn’t bother to cross-check my résumé. I feel like I’m living one big lie, but I’m doing short courses online to hopefully make up for it.

 

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