Marriage fairytale myths
NOT many people are naïve enough to believe in fairytale descriptions about finding Prince Charming and living happily ever after, but even for those who scoff at the absurdity, there are certain expectations about finding Mr Right, that will continue to have women seeking partners and walking down the aisle.
Truth is, the belief that a husband will be a protector, provider, helper, supporter and partner for life may be as much of a fairytale as believing that marriage means happily ever after. And we have to admit that like all the princesses of fairytales past believing in happily ever after based on their flawed perceptions about love, it’s no different now.
What myths about marriage did you find out, after marriage?
Chantel, 42:
I thought that my husband would provide, and would be happy to, as the male head, and for the first few years of the marriage he did. But recently, he watched a few Tik Toks and decided that he wanted to stay home, and I should work. The roles have been reversed and ordinarily, I wouldn’t say anything, but he also expects me to be outside cleaning gutters and weeding the yard, because he’s apparently in his soft guy era, and can’t get sunburnt because he’s moisturising.
Faith, 30:
I thought we would be in love forever, because we had a soul tie, and both love the Lord. But I’m no longer in love with him, and I’m sure he’s no longer in love with me, so we’re just together for the kids and church. Every couple I know has been in love all their lives, but our love ended really fast.
Destiny, 28:
Marriage is supposed to be about companionship, because why else would you get married, right? But I find myself more insulated than ever, and I need validation from outside to feel whole.
Shanae, 37:
I no longer believe in forever, because we have to accept the fact that people change, and people are constantly evolving, and people grow apart. So the person you marry won’t be the same person 10 years later, because humans change. If you’re not able to embrace change, you’ll be miserable, and sometimes if change is leading you elsewhere, there’s nothing wrong with that. Marriage is not forever.
Tiana, 25:
You will get bored, even if he’s the love of your life. It’s ridiculous to expect people to have the same interest in the same person forever and ever. Just think about it realistically.
