10 ways to get over your ex
The person who originally said “it is better to have
loved and lost, than never have loved at all” better not catch us in these
streets. What is so great about heartache and pain? Who said it was noble to be
hurt and then bury it beneath a gallon of ice cream?
A broken heart may eventually heal but the process is
no joke; oftentimes you cannot get the memories out of your mind despite your
best efforts.
Friends and family may tell you to shake it off and
move on with your life but this is usually easier said than done, especially if
the love was deep-seeded and if the relationship lasted years.
However, there are some steps that may not make it one
hundred per cent better but over time should at least allow you to sleep at
night.
1. Stop
following them on social media: Who needs to see them smiling and enjoying
life just fine without you? Do not torture yourself.
2. Remove their
photographs from your presence, especially your phone: Please to take down
that huge portrait you have of them hanging above your bed. Like seriously?
3. Avoid
frequenting you visited together: Stop going there and walking down memory
lane like it’s the yellow brick road. Find a new lane and stay in it.
4. Start
working out: Release some happy endorphins and begin to feel good about
yourself again. Also, nothing says “Over it!” like being in the best shape of
your life.
5. Do not stay
home and brood: We will observer the required period of mourning but go out
with good friends and create new memories. It will definitely help ease your
mind.
6. Take up a hobby, preferably one that has nothing at
all to do with your ex.
7. Refresh your
look: Nothing drastic or extreme like plastic surgery, but you can change
your hair style or colour and step out with renewed confidence
8. Re-arrange
your furniture: It sounds simple but looking at the space the person loved to
occupy or staring at their favourite chair is not doing you any good. Re-paint,
rearrange and renew.
9. Get rid of
the clothes and shoes they left behind: For heaven sake, do not lie in bed
smelling perfume/cologne. Donate it all to the Salvation Army where it can do
some good.
10. Get
counselling: Breakups can be hard, it helps to talk to someone who may have
a fresh perspective and is equipped to advise you.