Crabbed age and youth

Cannot live together,

Youth is full of pleasure,

Age is full of care.

— Shakespeare.

Just do not try and tell that to the countless women who have taken offence to any reference to them being past the age that young men want. The fact is, most men would rather choose a young sprightly lass over a woman of say 45/50. And when I dared to write that, the lashing I got from friends, strangers and even family, who expressed that women in that age group still got it going on. Some people were also incensed that I mentioned that tourists, including middle-aged American women, come here to participate in the Rent-a-Dread phenomenon.

Those dreads are young, virile, and strong, just what a woman wants. They also resented the fact that I mentioned that older men don’t want older women. Some ladies expressed that women over 45/50 are still ready, willing and very able to play with younger men and, in fact, when they walk on the streets, it’s the younger guys who are always ‘looking’ them.

Some even went as far as to say, “You know that all these years I was thinking of giving him a piece, but clearly he wouldn’t want a woman my age.”

Others offered to show off their naked bodies to prove how firm and taut their structures were, even after three children.

I did say that there were a few exceptions, but that was lost on them, as they preferred to focus on the age gap. One young lady actually e-mailed my column to her uncle in London who promptly sent her a rebuttal article taken from the esteemed
Sunday Times that extolled the virtues of older women dating and marrying much younger men.

More on that after these responses to what I had to say about ‘True friends indeed’.

Tony,

The more I mature in these changing times, I have come to realise that the Creator is my true and best friend. Subsequently, I would say my main doctor from high school days plus two primary school friends who we still make daily contact. Apart from a selected and reliable few, other friends are just my acquaintances. Apart from one’s partner, it’s good to have a neighbour in the mix. Don’t have friends with differing lifestyles, demands, and lots of baggage. True friends are good for the soul.

Charmaine

Teerob,

The friend article was entertaining as always. In fact, my closest friends are the same from my class at high school, they call us the library posse because we all used to hang out at Tom Redcam library. My wife’s obsession with following her single friends resulted in her losing her husband. So I can identify with the friends following friends crap.

Pardy

There are women who said that they dated much younger men because of their stamina.

“Those young guys have it all, and even though it’s twice the sex with half the foreplay, I will live with it.”

These women are out for a good time, and getting it too, from these young Turks. Some say that young guys are usually healthier and won’t have prostate problems, heart disease, sugar, hypertension, stoppage of water, arthritis, incontinence, kidney failure, or any such disease that may take older men.

“I don’t want to end up nursing nuh old man, so I will choose the youngster.”

Cold, real cold, but it’s a reality that some of these women live.

There’s an article that I read that stated that frequent sex actually makes you look younger, so it’s a double benefit for these women, as not only do they have the time of their lives, but time actually reverses as a result. I thought everyone knew that, but I guess some scientist had to research it.

“My, Sharon, how you looking so young and fresh?”

“Oh, it’s just my toy boy joy.”

Osmosis, brought to a different level, and with much pleasure to boot.

Younger guys also have less stress, as usually they aren’t as high up on the corporate ladder as the older men. No boardroom, just bedroom, no long meetings, just meeting long, no boss stressing them out, no financial cloud hanging like the sword of Damocles over their head. Just the joy of carefree youth. Oh, George Bernard Shaw really got it right when he said, “The joys of youth are wasted on the young.” What wouldn’t a man of 65 give to have the friskiness of a youth of 25?

There’s a pop song titled,
Stacie’s mom has got it going on, which tells of a teenager falling for his girlfriend’s mother. So many women are married but carrying on with young boys behind hubby’s gray back. In spite of his corporate status, his fancy suits, slick automobiles and fat bank account, he cannot compete with the young stud in certain areas — the areas that matter. So just like how men will have affairs with women much younger than their wives, women will have liaisons with younger men. Oh yes, they do exist, right in our midst, under yu nose. Women are doing exactly what the men are doing and are better at it.

In this article from the London
Sunday Times, written by India Knight, she starts by saying, “More women are marrying younger men than ever before. The figure has almost doubled to an impressive 26 per cent over 35 years. What that means marvellously, is that an ever-decreasing number of us feel obliged to marry gnarly old grandpas for either status or money, which strikes me as an excellent development, and not before time.”

This woman ramp rough, and if I ever described older women the way she described older men, I would have been publicly pilloried, tarred and feathered or beaten with broomsticks.

And this, from the esteemed London
Sunday Times too. What I find amazing is that when I curse or berate men, all the women gleefully endorse my words, but if I dare say any truth that has a hint of negativity towards the fairer sex, they come down on me like a ton of bricks. Yet they harp and carp about equality.

The article went on to say that, “It used to be that the quickest route to financial and social stability was to hook up with your very own gramps. That’s why traditionally, a certain kind of man, the kind that has little going for him apart from his job title and bank account, was inevitably accompanied by a certain kind of woman; a much younger wife who tried to pretend she’d married for love, and actually found the cheeky-necked old haddock she shared a bed with physically attractive.”

Hey, I have always said that too, about these very old men and the young girls that they squire, but I have never called anyone, male or female, a creepy-necked old haddock. Folks, have you ever seen a haddock? It’s a fish, and a very ugly one too. That’s very unkind. Old tough turbits, harbour sharks, pampas, and baleen whales are exempt.

The reason older women can now have younger men is due a lot to the fact that women are now more independent, have good jobs, houses, cars, and strength of cash. The reality is, they can buy and sell any young boy they want and haven’t got to depend on any man to dole out cash to them. The article verifies this by saying, “Women can be powerful and rich in their own right, and this independence brings with it a new kind of choice. It means they can hook up with people they genuinely fancy, instead of with people whose money or success acts as a sort of smoke screen, imbuing their spouses with the aura of success via a kind of osmosis.”

Osmosis, same word I used earlier on, where a stronger solution flows to a weaker one, usually through a semi-permeable membrane, if my A’ level zoology serves me right. In other words, you absorb the ways of your partner.

What is interesting, she continues, is that women in that position usually opt for a younger man. A woman who is independent, with her own fat bank account, has the power of choice, will choose a young buck over a wheezing Viagra-induced geriatric any day. And here I was, thinking that some women actually loved these men for themselves. Let them win the Lotto and see how fast they flee to Rio with Raphael or Madrid with Manuel.

What is also happening is that younger men are seeking out these older women. Hey, wait a minute, is this some sort of ironic twist, some role reversal, where the young guys see a cash cow, a gravy train where all he has to do is perform his stud duties for financial security? I don’t know, and the women don’t seem to think so. The fact is, some guys do love older women. Some guys love ugly women too. Nature is just and fair in order to perpetuate the species.

What also often happens now is that many women tend to treat their younger men more like a pet, rather than an equal. Now that’s a blow for male masculinity if I ever saw one. Sure, you’re going to say, “But men have been doing that for years with young girls, so what’s the big deal?” Well, it just ain’t right, women having men as pets, it just ain’t right.

It’s a new world, folks, and as Bob Dylan sang ‘The times they are a changing.’ The
Sunday Times article also said, “Generally though, the fashionability of marrying younger men is to be applauded, because it demonstrates that the hackneyed idea of the subservient chattel-like wifey, grateful to be picked by the unsexy older bloke, is becoming a thing of the past.”

That lady writer hits hard, but she tells it like it is.

Mark you, I think the phenomenon is more prevalent in North America or the UK, but we’re catching up here.

More time.

seido1yard@gmail.com

Footnote: Everyone likes to be recognised, at least most people do. So when people achieve and succeed yet are snubbed it can have a negative effect on them. I have been hearing much talk about the annual sports awards show which basically is an excellent arena that showcases the achievements of our athletes. But the word on the street is that they fall short in some areas. Reggae Girl Khadija “Bunny” Shaw has been making extraordinary waves in football in England, winning numerous awards year after year after year. She is the queen of women’s football. Yet, not even a mention by the sports awards people. In karate, there are athletes who have done exceptionally well at international tournaments and more recently medalled at the Bolivarian Games held in Lima, Peru. Yet, not even a mention by the awards organisers. Justice must not only be done, it must appear to be done.