The most expensive mistakes I’ve made with a man
IT’S only natural that when we are in a relationship, especially if we believe that this person is the one, that we go all in. We sacrifice; we compromise; we negotiate. However, in retrospect many people can attest to making some mistakes in the name of love; for some, very expensive mistakes.
Josephine, 28:
We had been dating for over two years. It was a long distance relationship. Everything was going alright, mostly because we weren’t spending every waking minute with each other. Whenever he would come to visit me we would always hang out at my place. He was in a financial bind at the time and had asked me for a loan. Everything in me told me not to do it, however, he won me over with statements like, ‘If you love me then you would do this for me’, and, ‘If it was you I would gladly do it for you’. He said he would pay back when he could. Six months later I contemplated breaking up with him, however, he still owed me the money. I stayed with him just a little bit longer so that I could get back my money. Needless to say we broke up and I still haven’t got back my money. My advice: know when to cut your losses.
Marie, 32:
We were in a relationship for three years. I wasn’t getting any older and still he hadn’t popped the question. It brings me back to something my mother always said, ‘Why buy the cow when the milk is free?’ Anyway, some new housing units were opening up in a housing development and I proposed to him that we buy a house together. Sure enough he agreed and we both put up half of the funds. We lived in that house for good year before I found out he was cheating. I ended the relationship. One of us had to move, and that became me. I offered to buy out his portion of the house but so far he has refused. Ladies, take it from me, the ring is your insurance policy.
Amanda, 38:
I met my husband at my workplace. He was a decent guy. Over time we became the best of friends until eventually we got married. When I met him he was doing his degree part time. I knew nothing of the loans he had to take out to send himself to school. It was not until he began to fall behind in his payments that he came clean. By that time he was already neck deep in loans. He defaulted and I was left holding the bag. My advice ladies, do a thorough background check on your husband, especially when it comes to his finances.
Kimberley, 29:
I have a four-year-old daughter for a man I was with for seven years. For me the most expensive mistake I ever made is not a monetary one. It is not giving my daughter the stable father that she needs in her life. Sure he comes around, but not often enough, and most times it’s unannounced. Being a father is not a part-time job. I’m afraid to say, but the effects of his absenteeism will be long lasting and very costly especially where her future relationships with men are concerned.
Diandra, 27:
Our wedding by far was the most expensive mistake that we have ever made. My husband and I are not divorced, however, we are still paying for our wedding three years after the ceremony. Our wedding was more us showing off on our friends than a matter of a celebration of our love. Some of the things were just too much, even my dress for instance. I still have it and haven’t worn it since my wedding day. Looking back, a small, intimate wedding would have met all our needs. I mean the money we are paying now could have been used for other things.
