Don’t ask her this on the first date
IF you really like someone, the first date is the time you’ll get to know each other — your individual likes and dislikes and whether there’s potential for moving forward. But this does not mean that anything goes, especially certain questions and demands that you have no business asking.
What’s OK and what’s not? Below women share the queries men have been rude enough to make, and which should be struck off the list of questions on date number one.
Vanette P, 39:
Do you want to go to the beach?
Don’t ask me if I like to go to the beach. If a man wants to annoy me and turn me off, let him ask that question. Men who ask that are usually itching to see you out of your clothes by whatever means necessary. On my first date I don’t want him to focus on me baring my goods for his benefit. It’s tacky and predictable.
Averyn S, 26:
Have you ever cheated?
It’s like they ask this to find out if you would cheat on them or something. If I say yes, then they may not even say it, but they will definitely feel that you would do the same if you got involved with them.
Shamile R, 22:
Are you a virgin?
I don’t understand why they ask this. It makes me very uncomfortable. And then when you don’t answer or tell them you would rather not get into it, they laugh and tell you that that answers the question. Meaning they already draw the conclusion that you are not. That alone kills the mood of the entire date.
Kerrie H, 34:
Do you shave or wax?
There are so many other questions to ask, why would you be concerned about whether or not I shave my private parts? That is not your business.
Erica S, 39:
How many men have you been with?
I can’t believe you have men who still ask this. Nothing is more embarrassing, and right away they’re forcing you to lie! So you know the two of you are not going to make it because already that relationship starts out on a lie. You think I would tell him the truth?
Mary-Ann D, 44:
What is your favourite position?
This is supposed to be a first date, why would you be so focused on sex that you even want to know the position I have sex in?
Renece T, 37:
Send me a naked picture, nuh?
Why? So you can post it on Facebook? Or send it to all your friends? I don’t know you. I don’t know anything about you! This is the first time we’re meeting like this, what would I gain from doing this? Men just need to think before they open their mouths sometimes.
Angela R, 26:
Are you looking for marriage?
This is a casual date and even though it is a ‘getting to know you’ process, this question would probably scare me off if he asks me this so soon. Because obviously you haven’t reached the stage as yet to be even thinking about marriage.
