Honey, we need to talk

How do you tell your partner that you would like to have things done a particular way in the bedroom? How do you broach the topic without raising eyebrows, especially if one particular way has worked for a while?

Sue, 40:

For me that is a conversation that we need to have outside the bedroom. I would ask him what he likes and then I would tell him what I like. We have to communicate in order for a relationship to work. I am a big advocate for being on the same page as well as having a serious conversation on neutral ground. The bedroom is not neutral ground but the living room sofa is.

Curtis, 38:

Sex is a two way street. For a long time sex was about pleasing the man, but not anymore. Couples have to be willing to have these conversations beforehand.

Irene, 42:

Women need to be brave enough to talk about their sex lives with their partners. Sometimes the conversation may be a bit uncomfortable at first, but dialogue is important in maintaining a healthy relationship.

Dorie, 43:

This is touchy topic as for us sex is an ego thing. If a woman brings an issue to us that is related to our performance in bed sometimes it’s hard not to take it as a personal attack. But if she is not able to air her concerns, this will build up resentment which can sooner or later enter the bedroom in one shape or the other.

Russell, 41:

When I told my partner that she had to step her game up, she took it as an offence. But she eventually came around.

Rose, 45:

Some men are manipulators and so they will take every opportunity to comment on your sexual performance and get you to do things that you are not comfortable with. Some men watch too much porn and so their minds are polluted with things that are not normal for a woman to be doing. When a man and a woman are unequally yoked no manner of diplomacy whether inside or outside of the bedroom can work. Take it from me, I have tried.