5 things men do after you break up with them
Despite popular belief, women are not the only ones who react negatively after the dissolution of a romantic relationship. Richie Drenz, romance author, shares the ways men deal with break-ups.
Sex
Sex? Yes, sex, but this time it’s different. It’s sex without attachments. After having invested so much into a relationship and seeing it go up in flames, he’ll wonder what’s the sense this time. He’ll simply scroll through his phone for that “one” to call over. His detachment is his way of dealing with the pain of losing someone special to him. For him this is an entirely physical experience, no emotions, no entanglement.
He puts on a facade
Most men will never show their true colours, instead they will opt to put on a façade. So while pretending to be fine without her, he might go out with the boys as a means of soothing his secretly aching heart. He will try to be macho about it and move on as fast as possible. And so the next time he meets up with his friends, he will have on this tough exterior, and let his friends know that he is back on the market. He might even go as far as to change his Facebook relationship status to single in an outwardly public attempt to move on.
Stalking
Stalking nowadays doesn’t have to be as overt as following behind her in his car. However, if a man is not quite over you just yet, he might opt to follow you on the various social media platforms as well as ask persons who are close to you what you have been up to lately. He just wants to know what is the latest with you and possibly if there is someone new in your life. Maybe he still harbours a hope that you two can still have a future together.
Cry
He might not spend the entire night sobbing into his pillow (or he might) but he might actually shed a tear or two, or as Drenz describes, he might cry without tears. His moaning for the relationship might be a silent one, but moaning nonetheless.
Substance abuse
Some men might turn to the bottle as a means of dealing with the break-up. Rather than having to face the reality of what transpired they would rather bury their emotions than deal with them head on. It’s not that he is not feeling any pain, it’s just that he is choosing to deal with it in a different way. For him, it might not be so much what he lost but the fact that he might have to start all over again! And who wants to do that?
