Struggling with monogamy
PENGUINS are deemed to be largely monogamous, and mammals like gibbons and wolves mate for life. However, humans seem to have great difficulty staying loyal to their mates, and many struggle with monogamy. The divorce rate is high and often you hear of infidelity being the main reason for couples breaking up.
Below a few people share their views on the question of monogamy.
Nathaniel:
I don’t believe in monogamy. You’re robbing the world of yourself — something unique. We are all brands. When you confine yourself to one person, you’re robbing others of the beautiful person you are. Love is a wonderful thing and you’re robbing yourself of amazing experiences by being monogamous.
Joseph:
I’m between a rock and a hard place. I maintain a physically monogamous relationship with my girlfriend but I flirt and do what she terms emotional cheating with other women. I will engage in make-out sessions, provide a shoulder to lean on, have heart-to-heart conversations with them. How can I be totally devoted to one person?
Leona:
After a very difficult separation I found myself testing the waters and not committing to any one man again. It’s easier that way for me, but my church members have no clue that I have no intention of sticking with one man for the rest of my life.
Christopher:
It’s a constant obstacle that you always have to climb. Your wife may be hot, but there are other hotties around that will promise a grand time. It’s difficult. I try to pray.
Marie:
I have two boyfriends but they don’t know about each other. One provides the love, the other provides the cash. I sometimes try to choose one — the one with cash for obvious reasons of security and financial stability, but the loving is so good. The back and forth is horrible.
Kezia:
I don’t like the idea of being with one individual. What if my current relationship fails? That’s always been my concern. So even though it sounds nice to be with one person and grow old together, practically in my life, when I try to stick to one person, someone else comes along. Men aren’t really in short supply, you know.
Sean:
I believe in sharing the joy of my manhood, but I also care about hurting a woman’s feelings. It’s one roller coaster; don’t know if I’ll ever get it right.
Mitsy:
I lose interest in sex with one man and want to have others and it’s difficult, so I just shut my partner out. Sometimes I’m so annoyed with coming home to him every night.
Michael:
I want to have one woman, you know, when they say it’s time to settle down. But honestly, the thrill of feeling something new, cheating and not getting caught is addictive. Also, it seems less stressful having an open relationship, so when I weigh both sides of the equation I don’t know which is better.
Bianca:
I don’t get heated for my partner, but when I meet a new guy, it’s like a hidden flame ignites deep down. The idea of someone new is exhilarating and gives me a boost or drive that I don’t get all the while from the same partner.
