Red flags to watch for with your new guy
WE get it. He’s rich, cute, and his body is chiselled to perfection. But before you harbour hopes of spending eternity with your new guy, take note of the sometimes obvious signs that he may not be the guy for you.
He calls his ex ‘crazy/bitch’
This is a clear indication of the way he will address you if you should part or get into an argument. This shows that he has very little respect for women, and even though he told you that you are special to him, you may not want to take his words as gospel.
He checks his phone constantly
When you are alone, it’s never just the two of you. It’s always him, you and his phone. He doesn’t take time to appreciate you or to have a conversation with you without constantly responding to messages and checking social media notifications.
He’s hooked on your physical attributes
If you ask him what he likes about you and all he can comment on is your perfect shape, dreamy eyes, or thick lips, he may only be interested in exploiting the pleasure of your body and is not interested in a long-term relationship.
He hates his parents
If there is tension between him and his parents, and especially if it’s as extreme as hatred, you may want to consider the value that he places on respect. It may not affect you initially, but family matters often seep into relationships.
He doesn’t keep his promises
He promised to take you to the movies, to breakfast, or even to message you when he gets home, but he never does any of it. It happens so often that the most natural thing to do when he is calling is to brace yourself for disappointment. Your idea of a surprise now comes when he keeps his promise rather than the actual surprise he says he has planned.
Alone time equals sex
He doesn’t try to talk about the future or play word games, chess or something else that you are both interested in. Instead, he tries to initiate sex all the time as soon as you are alone. It gets even worse if he tries to make you guilty for wanting to engage in some activity other than sex.
He wants to control you
You allow him his privacy, you check on him one, two times daily, and the subject of his location or his plan for later may come up, but unlike you he wants a copy of your daily planner. He calls constantly to check if you are where you said you would be, dictates what you can and cannot do, and even asks you to drop your friends. Be careful. He may become your nightmare.
