Signs you’re still in love with your ex
GETTING over someone you were romantically attached to is a difficult process. And sometimes, even after you think you’re way past caring, something happens to bring you back to stage one. How do you know you’re still in love with your ex? Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell shares some signs.
1. You still continue to check up on him/her
You should be concentrating on yourself and your own healing, but you still invest all your time keeping in contact with your ex almost like nothing ever happened and you are still very much a couple.
2. You still engage in sexual relations with him/her
You try to convince yourself that it’s over, but you end up having sex each time they call, and update your relationship status to ‘friends with benefits’. Sex is one of those actions that glues a relationship together — you can’t truly move on when you are still having sex with your ex.
3. You still have items of clothing at his/her house
You keep holding on to items that are closely connected with the ex — you refuse to return the keys to their house or the prized sweater they lent you, mostly because you still believe that there is hope and things could return to the way they used to be.
4. You are enraged when you see him/her with someone else
You transform into the ultimate green monster when you see your ex with someone else. Sometimes you break down and cry just upon hearing that your ex was in town walking and holding hands with another person of the opposite sex. Since they are not yours anymore, it shouldn’t even matter.
5. You go on occasional dates with him/her
You grab at every opportunity to go on dates with your ex, and you even try to keep abreast of things that may be happening that both of you would enjoy just so that you can invite them.
6. You refuse to get rid of photo memories
You refuse to remove the pictures on the wall, or the album containing 3,000 photos of your ex from your phone or social media. Even as you pretend that you have moved on, removing the pictures reminds you of your reality, and you don’t want that.
7. You turn up uninvited at his/her house and at family functions
Your ex is no longer yours, but you have ignored that fact and still show up at every family function, pretending to still be part of the family.
8. You want him/her to report movements to you
Though there is absolutely no reason for you to be doing this now, you can’t function if you don’t know where your ex is at all times.
