Getting your groove back post-break-up
EXITING a relationship and trying to make it in singleville can be difficult when you’re new to riding solo. Chances are you and your ex would do things together and now that he or she is no longer in the picture, you’re left to mope and wonder what went wrong.
But getting back on the scene and stepping up your game isn’t so difficult once you’re ready to make that step.
Below readers tell All Woman how they got their groove back post-break-up.
Diane:
I began to focus on myself, do some serious introspection and regroup. Then I started to pamper myself. I had developed my independence before, so I linked up with a few friends and went to parties. I felt better when I would see him and he realised I was not at my worst or hurting anymore.
Stacey:
He told me I was getting too chubby and eventually he left because of my body weight. Of course I cried and it was stressful. The emotional distress and trying to piece it together was a lot to handle. Eventually I let it go and joined a gym and would run with my brothers in the morning until the extra weight came off. At the gym, once I started the strength exercises, there was no turning back. I started seeing a new me. Six-packs peeping out, my butt seemed to have got a lift, arms were well toned and I just felt great. I remember posting a before and after picture to Facebook and someone commented saying, ‘Yes goodie, hot up dem head now’, and one big discussion started and people were saying it was great that I took back my life.
Dennis:
I went out and splurged and had fun and just turned it up and had a blast. I forgot her and her issues. Life was great and simple. I just lived.
Andrew:
I found a new girlfriend who physically looked better than her and just profiled and made myself seen everywhere I went with this girl.
Marissa:
I went out a lot. And if he was going somewhere I ensured I went too and wore what he liked, and dressed how he liked seeing me and he would stare. That to me was satisfying — seeing him look and knowing he couldn’t have this anymore.
Natassia:
I did everything I missed out on. Everything I never tried, I ensured I tried and I made it a point of duty not to talk about the pain or break-up. Each day was new, filled with new adventures, and I just went all out and enjoyed my own company.
Kevin:
I took a vacation, hooked up with a couple of girls I went to college with in the US and lived recklessly for a week. When I returned to Jamaica I went to every party, no matter when or where it was being held. But even in doing that I made sure I was really enjoying myself and remained happy. I promised myself I wouldn’t sit at home and listen to love songs or induce depression and sadness on myself. It came from time to time when I saw her in person or saw the start of a new relationship, but I had to get myself together and occupy myself.
Lorenzo:
I had to get away from the situation. So I switched jobs, changed my number, deleted her from my social media and started over. I began doing things I enjoyed. I joined a sports club and indulged myself in it and got my name out there. If I was invited to a place and had no date, I still went and I didn’t sit alone or acted sad. I mixed with the crowd and had a great time. Those things happen, but you just have to ride through them. It will pass. I don’t think I lost my groove. I just found a way to express it in a different setting.
— KIMBERLEY HIBBERT
