Should past relationship secrets always remain hidden?
Sometimes when we enter new relationships we tend to drag the experiences of the past along with us. Some of this excess baggage that we carry around serves no purpose, but even after we run out of storage space to hold them, we still hold on.
But some of this baggage can help us and our new partners understand why we are the way we are and how best to cope with certain issues that may pop up.
Do you think past relationship secrets should always be kept hidden? How much would you share with your new partner?
Clayton, 32:
If it’s not affecting my present relationship then I don’t think I would bring it up.
Valerie, 39:
I have no secrets from any of my past relationships, and if I did they are just that — from the past. I don’t need to tell anyone about it. It would be a secret for a reason.
Jacqui, 44:
Well, I have only had one secret and it wasn’t a secret in the sense that it would send me to prison, well maybe moral prison, but a lot of women have been through it. I recently told my husband about it because I have been depressed about it for over 25 years and the guilt was eating away at me. I had an abortion when I was younger; no one knew about it but my ex. My mother died last year without knowing and that made me break down knowing that I didn’t tell her over all these years because I didn’t want the embarrassment. Since I told my husband he has been very supportive.
Michael, 39:
There are no secrets to hide in my past, I’m an open book. Who can’t manage what’s in it can put down the book, but I have nothing to hide.
Lillian, 24:
If I had a secret that I had to hide then it would remain hidden. What would be the point in digging into my past that I have buried and put to rest?
Lowell, 38:
I have no hidden secrets to share, but if my partner had a secret past I would hope that she was comfortable enough with me to share it. I’d like to know the type of person I’m with, not to judge her, but it would be good to know.
