Being the other man
SOME men will brag about being Joe Grind, especially if they revel in providing stud service to a woman who is dissatisfied with her long-term guy. Others find out they’re playing the role in the same way a woman finds out that her man is cheating, and they’re devastated. Being blindsided by a woman can be so crushing that some men never recover, and spend the rest of their lives mistrusting the female gender. What is it really like being the other man? Some guys share:
Mikhail, 24:
I have been the other man, and I was OK with it, but it wasn’t handled well by the woman because she started having feelings for me. So I had to distance myself. I didn’t like the idea though, because I can’t bother with the sharing thing.
Dominic, 30:
I was young and in school and she was older. At the time it felt good that an older woman was attracted to me.
Dave, 37:
In my younger years I was the other man for a woman old enough to be my mother, but she didn’t look that way. I didn’t like it because we had to sneak around.
Simon, 27:
Right now I am the other man, and I really don’t mind. She can’t call every minute to find out where I am because she lives with her guy. I’m cool with it because I’m not cooped up.
Oneil, 40:
I was the other man, but I found out by accident. I was heartbroken. I thought it was real, and I even imagined starting a family with her.
Jason, 38:
I was posted overseas and found out that she was cavorting in Jamaica with another guy, many years younger than her. My family actually found out and told me, and when I confronted her, she tried to play it off like it was perfectly normal. I’ve never felt so much pain in my life, and I hope never to feel that way ever again.
Chris, 35:
I was the other man. I didn’t feel good in the relationship. She would talk to me like I was an idiot because she went to university and I didn’t.
