Are Christian women obsessed with marriage/finding a partner?
MARRIAGE in your prime years is one of the many things that the church encourages, in an attempt to maintain the sanctity of the nuclear family. And this one thing appears to be the main goal for many Christian women, who are often criticised for “running down marriage”. But are Christian women more obsessed with marriage or finding a partner than those outside of the church? A few women weigh in:
Paula T, 40:
For me it was the sex. I wasn’t obsessed with getting married, I wanted to have sex, but I didn’t want to do it before marriage. That would go against everything I stand for as a Christian. Our religion is against it. Women who aren’t baptised are already sexually involved, so they don’t necessarily have to “run down marriage”, as some would say.
Christina G, 26:
I’m not a Christian, but I have friends who are and I go to church. I think it’s because of the pressure from the older folks in the church. I notice that they look down on the ladies who reach their 30s and have been through many relationships. Some ’nuff’ ones even go as far as trying to pair up couples. And if they notice a couple dating for a while, they start asking them when they are going to settle down. The non-Christians don’t get this pressure.
Shanika K, 28:
Well, the Bible is entirely against fornication and children born out of wedlock. I wanted to start my family early, but because of my Christian beliefs I didn’t want children before getting married. So I got married early. I know other Christian women who feel this way. A person who isn’t baptised won’t necessarily think about these things.
Kayla G, 32:
We are not obsessed with marriage. We just want to do what is right. Christians are humans and we have feelings too. And there are certain things that we can’t do before marriage.
Nordia M, 39:
I think some Christian women are obsessed with marriage – not all. It’s mainly because the older Christians want to see them married early, instead of having a series of unsuccessful relationships. Women who are not Christians might get pressure from family, which isn’t much. But Christian women are getting pressure from family and the church. Not many can handle that kind of pressure, so getting married is at the top of their to-do list.
