Regrets that married women have
MANY women spend much of their childhood conjuring up ideas of a blissful marriage, and by extension a happy life ever after. What is equally true is that many, whether they are newly wed, celebrating double-figure anniversaries, or on the brink of divorce, at some point regret having been married for various reasons.
All Woman asked a few of its readers to share their marriage regrets:
Charmaine, married six years:
I regret giving up my financial independence. I enjoy taking care of the house and the kids, but I don’t like having to report to my husband about all the money I spend or waiting for him to give me money. This is not how I planned my life, and so it’s a sore point for me, because I miss the days when I earned and was able to get all I wanted without having to fill out a questionnaire first.
Rachelle, married 12 years:
I think that my deepest regret would be that I didn’t take time to explore. I just left school and got married, because having grown up in a Christian home we were taught that before we become intimate we need to commit to each other. That one decision led to at least 10 years of misery.
Patricia, married 20 years:
I regret ever meeting my husband, which is the reason I am now working to undo that mistake in the best way that I can.
Michelle, married seven years:
I am sorry that I allowed him to reduce me to nothing. He may not hit me, but it would have been better if he did, because at least those scars would heal and fade over time. I am still working on getting out of it but some things still have me a little tied up. Thank God that I have my mother, and she is helping me to get out of it.
Amoy, married three years:
He is unsupportive of my plans for personal development.
Sharon, married 27 years:
I regret that I made sacrifices, including not having children, while my husband has done nothing but cheat. He has always lied to me, he has accused me of affairs and other things over the years, but I know it’s just so he will feel less guilty.
Catherine, married three years:
I know I am expected to say that my husband is terrible, but honestly, he is a great person. I only regret being married because I miss being able to be selfish with my decisions and resources. I am an only child so I was used to it being just me.
Ava:
I regret getting married because my husband makes me feel like a sex object. I feel like I am just an accessory.
